The Mother Daughter Bond

At the salon before the wedding! 5.28.2011

I've been thinking a lot lately about what type of relationship I will have with my child. I know that in reality I would love to have both a boy and a girl, but we can't really plan for that. You can try... but the body is going to do what it is going to do. That being said.... I was thinking to myself about how I would love to have a girl so that I could (hopefully) share that same relationship that I have with my mother and have a three generation bond (grandma, mom, daughter) that my grandma, my mom and I have. When I was younger (I loved my childhood by the way) I remember doing all sorts of stuff with my mom and grandma. We always had the most wonderful time. (We still do!) We'd go to the park, we'd go to craft shows, my grandma taught me how to crochet, knit, do counted cross stitch... she taught me a lot. Between both grandmothers I was always closest to my maternal grandmother and to this day I still am very close to her. I see her as much as I can and I am really looking forward to the day she moves closer to me! (This summer!!!)

5.28.2011 Grandma is so tiny! ♥

I've read articles on line before about how special a mother/daughter relationship can be and I am so thankful to say that I am one of the lucky ones that has this relationship. My mom is my go-to for a lot of stuff in my life and I share so much with her. We have inside jokes, we can have an absolute crazy time together, we can have serious talks, and we can just be US. We don't have to impress anyone and I know she is proud of me without her even having to say so. That's something you can't force... it just IS. This is why I would love to have a baby girl. Again, it is out of my hands; but having a girl would be such a magical thing to me. I know little boys are great too, but little girls truly are special. Not only because of the bond (which usually comes later in life....) but because little girls are daddy's little princesses. I know my dad still calls me his princess and I am OK with that. I am perfectly content telling people I'm a daddy's girl at 28 years old (pushing 29). My mom and I are best friends and my daddy is and always will be my hero.

Day Before the Disney Princess Half 02.2012

To those of you girls out there, I hope you know what I am talking about. I know that no family is perfect, I know some daughters unfortunately do not have their mothers or never had them due to tragedy, but to those of us that do have our mothers, it is such an amazing thing to be so close.

Pumpkin Patch! 10.2012

My maternal grandmother was my babysitter growing up and I wouldn't have that any other way. She watched me and both of my brothers and the time we got to share with her was so special to me. Hell, we'd even ask to spend the night at her house on weekends we loved it so much. I feel very strongly about my mom being my primary babysitter after the baby is born. I know my husband is fine with whatever but it is something in my heart that I want more than anything.

Disney Princess Half Marathon! 02.2012

I've been talking to my therapist about this too and she says that it is perfectly normal for me to want to continue that strong bond between my mom, me and my child and that I shouldn't feel bad about it at all. It is hard for me because it can feel like I'm not being fair to everyone, but that isn't what's important. What is important is me feeling comfortable with the choices for our baby and knowing that I am 100% happy with the decisions I make that will shape my child for years to come.

After the Lincoln Presidential Half Marathon 04.2013

Growing up my home life was a happy one. We were raised well, we were well rounded, we were taught life lessons (sometimes the hard way) when we got older and I wouldn't change that for the world. My parents made me work after I turned 16, they made me pay things like an adult does, they made me fend for myself and I am forever thankful for that. I want the same for my child(ren). I want them to work, earn, learn, and be independent. In fact, I already have plans to buy Dave Ramsey's Financial Peace University Chidlren's Edition for my kids so that they can learn about saving, spending, and giving the right way.

I mean c'mon, who doesn't want this woman to watch their child!? 

(This is my cousin Sarah's baby Michael)

If I do have a boy, which is FINE, I know that I will have a wonderful relationship with him as well. However, the mother/son relationship just isn't the same. Little boys grow up to young men, then to grown men, and after that... mom isn't needed as much anymore. Grown men (usually) find a woman they want to spend their life with and then that woman becomes front and center and then the family they will have becomes most important. It is the nature of things. Then, the daughter-in-law has her special bond with her mother and the trend continues along down that road. Daughters with that strong bond will ALWAYS want their mothers. Their mothers will give the advice, provide the care, be there in tough times.... it is just the nature of things. 

Nothing, I repeat nothing can compare to the relationship between a mother and daughter and I really hope I can have that someday. 

80's themed wedding reception 2011